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MORAL LESSONS

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 Lessons

 

Lesson 1 DONOT LIE
Lesson 2 HUMILITY
Lesson 3 Manners Makeover
Lesson 4 TBA
Lesson 5 TBA
Lesson 6 TBA
Lesson 7 TBA
Lesson 8 TBA
Lesson 9 TBA
Lesson 10 TBA
 

Lesson 1 DO NOT LIE

Concerned parents often worry that they are failing to teach their children the importance of honesty.

The good news is that there's no need to panic. Most young children will,
at some point or other in time, experiment with telling fibs and taking things that don't belong to them.

Even when it happens more than once, parents need not be overly concerned as it's all part of normal development.

Rare is the child who will not occasionally stretch the truth. In fact, most adults do it only too often!

Why Do Young Children Lie?

Children lie for a variety of reasons, but the most common one is to avoid blame or punishment. Parents need to accept that sometimes their child's
lies are a response initiated by fear of the parent's temperaments.

Overly critical, harsh and restrictive parents can literally force a child to 'adapt' by lying, because the fear of their parents' anger and displeasure
is too great.

Parents with unrealistically high expectations can often drive a child to
tell untruths.

Younger children often have a tough time distinguishing truth from fiction, and they may blur the line between reality and fantasy.

Many toddlers believe that wishing for something can actually bring it about; for example, they may talk of seeing mythical characters that
transport them to strange and wonderful worlds.

These are more cases of magical thinking rather than active lying. Other toddlers may find making up stories fun because they don't perceive the process as lying.

Parents with unrealistically high expectations can often drive a child to tell untruths.

Parents need not be unduly concerned. In time, these youngsters will naturally learn to differentiate between their 'inner world' of thought and emotion, and the 'outer world' of reality.

Children often learn to lie by experiencing others bend the truth. 'Moderate' lying, such as a 'white' lie, is thought of by many parents as harmless. Children, however, do not appreciate the nuances of a lie.

Youngsters often model themselves after adults who influence them,
so parents who are used to 'giving harmless excuses' or telling 'white' lies
should not be too surprised if their child starts to behave in much the same way.

Will My Child Continue To Lie?

Lying can also become a habit formed through constant practice. It is
possible that a child can "lie by reflex", and when confronted, insist that
it is the truth.

Habitual lying is often strengthened by hostile confrontation from
parents, and thus is reinforced when parents neglect to set limits to guide
and instruct the child.

A child who has been caught lying may feel cornered, and stick to his
story at all costs. The best strategy is not to force an on-the-spot confession.

Allow him 30 minutes to think about his lie. This gives him the
opportunity to calm down, reflect and confess on his own, which is a
trait you want to encourage and develop in your child.
 

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Make It Safe To Confess
When you catch your child telling a lie, don't fly into a temper. Turn it into a teachable moment instead. You are your child's guide and teacher as they develop their values. Even if you know your child's motivation was harmless, take every opportunity to point
out the impact of lies. Younger children don't understand abstract ideas very well, so be direct and concise.

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Set Clear Limits
From a young age, repeatedly instruct your child on the value of honesty.
Your child will eventually internalise the concept, and carry it with him into adulthood. Otherwise, you may end up with a child who depends on others to set limits, and who can't stop himself from doing something wrong until he's caught.

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Set Realistic Expectations
Don't set unreasonably high standards which your child will have difficulty attaining - this will confuse the child, who may suffer from lack of confidence and self-esteem as a result. In such cases, a child may resort to lying as an adaptive response.

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Compliment Honesty
When your child confesses to misdoing without first lying about it, compliment him on his honesty. But while you want to give your child credit for confessing, don't fall into the "You won't get into trouble if you just tell me the truth" trap. Honesty comes hand-in-hand
with accountability. After confessing,
the child still needs to make amends and take responsibility for his actions.

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Be A Role Model
No matter how much you tell children
to value honesty, it won't make much difference unless you set a good example. Avoid telling white lies. If
you expect honesty from your children, you should also be honest with them. Make telling the truth a priority both
in instruction and by example.

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Forgive And Forget
After your child has confessed, apologised and been disciplined, let
the lie go. Don't keep bringing up the incident or your child may feel that you expect the worst of him. Teach him that tomorrow is another day and another chance to act honestly.

Lesson 2 HUMILITY
 

THIS IS THE LESSON ON HUMILITY

1Peter 5:5-9

Young men, in the same way be submissive to those who are older. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because,

"God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble."[a] 6Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

8Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 9Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings.

JABEZ READ AND LEARN THIS WISDOM

BE SELF CONTROLLED MEANS LEARNING TO STOP EVEN WHEN YOU ARE PLAYING

 HUMILITY MEANS HUMBLE - SAYING I AM SORRY AND PLEASE

 JAMES 4: 6  But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:

   "God opposes the proud   but gives grace to the humble."[b]

PROVERBS 22:4   Humility and the fear of the LORD  bring wealth and honor and life.

PROVERBS 15:33 The fear of the LORD teaches a man wisdom,  and humility comes before honor.

Lesson 3  Give Your Child a Manners Makeover

by Cindy Post Senning 

Cindy Post Senning, Ed.D. is Emily Post’s great-granddaughter, and educator and author of numerous books on children and manners. The holidays are coming. Decorations are popping up everywhere. Holiday music is playing in stores. People are planning turkey dinners. Families will be traveling to visit families. Parents may be stressing. And kids are beside themselves with excitement!

Parents ask me, "What can we do? The kids are wild, and we've left table manners by the wayside. Is it too late?" No, it's not too late to spruce up the manners you want your children to know before the craziness sets in. You can help them by practicing a few days before Thanksgiving and Christmas.

Make time to talk with your kids about manners too. Ask them why manners are important and which ones they think make the most sense. Help them understand this isn't about "rules," it's really about how we get along with each other. The goal is to make this a positive experience and then to enjoy the holidays. Let's get started!

Table Manners
Practice setting a simple table setting with your child: fork on the left, knife and spoon on the right (knife next to the plate), glass on the right above the knife and spoon. (Ask your kids for suggestions for table decorations.)

Explain the basics:

  • Wash up.
  • Put your napkin in your lap.
  • Wait until all are served or the hostess begins to eat, before starting to eat.
  • Say, "Please" and "Thank you."
  • Hold utensils properly.
  • Chew with your mouth closed.
  • Offer to help clear.
  • Thank the cook!

Table Conversation

  • Children should talk to people beside and across from them.
  • Volume: Not too loud; not too soft.
  • Don't talk with your mouth full! (Try putting a mirror in front of your child during a meal, so she can see how it looks.)
  • The art of small talk: For older kids, suggest topics like the weather, sports, local events, school and then practice with them. Use questions that begin with who, what, where, when and how.
  • Talking about personal family issues is a no-no!

Greetings and Handshakes
Kids can practice with siblings, neighbors, dolls and stuffed animals!

Greetings - The most important thing for them to do is to look the person in the eye and SMILE! They should also:

  • Speak clearly.
  • Say the person's name.
  • Add a "Glad to see you" or "How's it going?" If it's a relative or close friend, add a hug.

Handshakes - In the olden days, knights extended a hand to show it did not hold a weapon. The other person responded showing he didn't have a weapon either. Today, kids should simply remember:

  • Right hand to right hand
  • Firm grip - not too tight; not too limp
  • Two to three pumps

Gifts You Don't Wrap

Some of the best things we can give at the holidays can't be wrapped. By talking with your children about this concept, you'll raise their consciousness about these special gifts: kindness, consideration and helping out.

Giving and Receiving Gifts
Help your kids learn the gracious art of gift giving and receiving.

Gift Giving - In order to help your kids learn the joy of giving, involve them in gift shopping or making the gifts they'll give. Then practice these interactions:

  • Look at the person and smile.
  • Hand them the gift and say clearly, "This is for you. I hope you like it." Or "Here, I made this especially for you."
  • Watch the person open their gift and feel the delight that comes with giving.

Gift Receiving - Remind kids that time and thought went into picking out their gift. It's important to be polite by opening the gift with a sense of joy and then expressing thanks. Have your child:

  • Look at the person giving the gift and smile.
  • Focus on the person and the gift - not something that was opened just before.
  • Say a big, "Thank you!" You can't stress this enough with your children! If they can't thank the giver in person, send a note right away!

If they don't like the gift, teach them to find something positive to say, to say it, and then to say "Thank you." For example, "This shirt is the best color blue. Thank you so much."

I hope these tips will help you and your child. And remember, good manners are a gift that will last a lifetime!

 

 

 

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VOCABULARY VITAMINS
COOKING GOING GOING UNCOMFORTABLE      
           
           
 

This week's theme: Cooking like a gourmet!

braise

(transitive verb)
[brayz]

1. to cook (meat or vegetables) by browning briefly in hot fat, adding a small amount of liquid, and cooking at a low temperature in a covered pot: "I am devoting the better part of this rainy afternoon to reading and braising beef."

Origin

Approximately 1797; from French, 'braise': live coals; from Old French, 'brese': embers; of Germanic origin.

parboil

(transitive verb)
[PAWR-boil']

1. to cook partially by boiling briefly, usually before frying or roasting: "The trick to my amazing home fries is to parboil the potatoes, then fry them with garlic and finish them with teriyaki sauce."

2. to make uncomfortably hot

Origin

Approximately 1381; from Medieval Latin, 'perbullire': to boil thoroughly; from Latin, 'per': through, thoroughly + 'bullire': to boil. Main modern meaning 'boil partially' is by mistaken association of the prefix with 'part.'

fricassee

(noun, transitive verb)
[frik'-ah-SEE, FRIK-ah-see']

noun

1. pieces of chicken or other meat stewed in gravy, often with carrots and onions and served with noodles or dumplings: "Zoe subsists on salads while her skinnier sister eats substantial meals like fricassee or lasagna every night!"

transitive verb

2. to prepare (chicken or other meat) by cutting into pieces and stewing in gravy; fricassee meats

Origin

Approximately 1568; from French, 'fricassee,' feminine past participle of 'fricasser': to mince and cook in sauce; of uncertain origin, perhaps Medieval French 'frire': to fry, from Latin, 'frigere': to fry or roast + 'casser,' 'quasser': to break, to cut up, from Latin, 'quassare': to shake.

decoct

(transitive verb)
[di-KOKT]

1. to extract the essence of something by boiling it: "To produce the ginger flavor, restaurant staff will decoct the root for hours."

2. to cook until very little liquid is left; 'boil down'

noun form: decoction

Origin

Approximately 1450; from Latin, 'decoct-,' past participle of 'decoquere': to boil down, from 'coquere': to boil, to cook.

julienne

(noun, adjective)
[joo'-lee-EN, zhu-LYEN']

noun

1. a clear soup with vegetables cut into thin strips

adjective

2. (also: julienned) cut into long thin strips: "Where did my daughter learn how to make julienne vegetables without cutting any fingers?"

Origin

Approximately 1841; from French, literally, (soup made) in the manner of Julien, the proper name, from an otherwise unknown cook

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This week's theme: Going and going and going.

interminable

(adjective) [in-TUR-mah-nah-bahl]

1. seemingly without end: "The interminable delays at the airport were cutting into our vacation time."

2. tiresomely long; 'an interminable sermon'

noun form: interminability
adverb form: interminably

Origin

Approximately 1374; from Late Latin, 'interminabilis': unending ('in-': not + 'terminabilis,' from 'terminare,' from 'terminus': end, boundary).

relentless

(adjective) [ri-LENT-lis]

1. unrelenting or unyielding in severity; 'relentless persecution'

2. unremitting, steady and persistent; never-ceasing; "The relentless beat of the drums drew me in from across the park."

adverb form: relentlessly
noun form: relentlessness

Origin

Approximately 1592; from English, 'relent,' from Latin, 'lentus': slow, viscous, supple + '-less': without.

 

immutable

(adjective) [i-MYOO-tah-bahl]

1. not subject or susceptible to change or variation in form, quality, or nature; unable to be changed; "The view of that time was that all species were immutable, created by God."

noun forms: immutability, immutableness
adverb form: immutably

Origin

Approximately 1412; from Latin, 'immutabilis': unchangeable ('in-': not + 'mutabilis': changeable, from 'mutare': to change).

 unabated

(adjective) [un'-ah-BAY-tid]

1. continuing at full strength or intensity; 'the winds are unabated'; 'unabated violence'; "The popularity of his books among young people continued unabated."

adverb form: unabatedly

Origin

Approximately 1611; from 'un-': not + 'abate,' from Latin 'ad': to + 'battuere': to beat.

 

indefatigable

(adjective) [in'-di-FAT-i-gah-bahl]

1. extremely persistent and untiring; "She was an indefatigable advocate of equal rights."

noun forms: indefatigability, indefatigableness
adverb form: indefatigably

Origin

Approximately 1586; from Latin, 'indefatigabilis': that cannot be wearied ('in-': not + 'defatigare': to tire out, from 'de-': utterly, away + 'fatigare': to weary)

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This week's theme: Making me uncomfortable.

beset

(transitive verb)
[bi-SET]

1. to assail or attack from all sides: "The zebra was beset by leopards."

2. to annoy continually or chronically

3. to surround or hem in; 'the mountains which beset it round' (Nathaniel Hawthorne)

4. to decorate something with jewels or other ornaments

noun form: besetment

Origin

from Old English, 'besettan': to surround; of Germanic origin.

privation

(noun) [prie-VAY-shahn]

1. lack of the basic necessities of life: "Jeff has chosen a life of privation over steady employment."

2. the act of depriving someone of something

Origin

Approximately 1340; from Latin, 'privationem': a taking away, from 'privatus,' past participle of 'privare': to deprive.

discomfiture

(noun) [dis-KUM-fi-choor', dis-KUM-fi-chahr]

1. anxious embarrassment: "Everyone shifted in their seats as the discomfiture in the dining room grew."

Origin

Approximately 1325; from Middle English, 'desconfiture' ('discomfit,' from Old French 'desconfire': to defeat, to destroy, from 'des-': not + 'confire': to make, to accomplish + '-ure.')

vexation

(noun) [vek-SAY-shahn]

1. the act of troubling or annoying someone: "The tight living arrangement was a great source of vexation for the whole family."

2. the psychological state of being irritated or annoyed

3. something or someone that causes anxiety

Origin

Approximately 1375; from Latin, 'vexation-,' from 'vexare': to shake, to harass + '-ion.'

gadfly

(noun) [GAD-flie']

1. a persistently annoying person: "I think I have finally figured out how to shake this gadfly off, once and for all."

2. any of various large flies that annoy livestock

Origin

Approximately 1626; from English, 'gad': goad, metal rod; from Old Norse, 'gaddr': spike, nail; of Germanic origin.